Let me help.

Here's the complaint I hear most often from girls; Guys are mean, they lie, they manipulate, to get some sex.

Here's the complaint I hear most often from guys; Girls are shallow, they only go for the hot jackasses, and never the nice guys.

I'll solve all your problems.

Girls

You would be better served if you didn't automatically equate sex with feelings. People have casual sex all the time, it doesn't necessarily mean anything.

If you don't like having casual sex, then don't. But meeting a guy, seeing him for a couple of days, then having sex with him because you think he really likes you, is naive, and then you end up getting hurt.

If you do like casual sex, then stop expecting anything out of it. Like it for the experience it is; two people who are attracted to each other, engaging in passionate sex. There's absolutely nothing wrong with never seeing each other again afterwards and just leaving it as the good memory it (hopefully) is. If you have realistic expectations, you won't feel so disappointed.

Also, don't go for the 'bad' guy, and then complain that he's not a good guy. That was to be expected.

Guys

It really bothers you when girls don't like you because you have a beer gut, or because you're pimply, or because you're just plain ugly. I can see how that might be irritating.

But get over it. Sexual attraction is not something that is within individual control. 

Furthermore, you would find girls that liked you, if you stopped pursuing the hot girls. The girls with the perfect hair, and perfect teeth, and gorgeous face, and great body. 


Have you no perspective? Why would a girl who can have her pick of hot guys, choose you? If you want a chance at a hot partner, you need to get hot yourself. Hit the gym, groom yourself, manscape a bit, get a haircut and don't wear clothes that make you look like a hobo, or a bogan. These things go a long way towards increasing one's attractiveness quotient. 

Being nice is a great, valuable thing, that will make people love you, but it's not enough, in itself, to make someone want to bed you, okay?

This has been a Public Service Announcement. Thankyou for your time.


* These are also generalisations. Yes, I do know that not all girls equate sex with feelings, and STILL get screwed over. Yes, I do know that some nice, yet ugly guys DO end up getting the hot girls.